Thanks guys the input is appreciated,
She seems to get it that I could die taking a walk to the store or driving a car or thousands of other things. She feels that the motorcycle is an unnecessary risk that I take and she considers it selfish that I do it without consideration for the family. But motorcycles is the only thing I do outside of the family.
Hopefully I can convince her that if I take some advanced riding course or something that will her easy her fears. Just need to find a way to lower her anxiety level a bit when I ride.
Congrats....I've been married for so long that I dont even look both ways when I cross the street
Show her the statistics for automobile injuries/deaths in a year. Then tell her you want to buy a sports-car.Co-worker's wife made him do just that to ride. A year or so later she was a millionaire.
Either that or get a million dollar life ins policy; my wife would carry me out to my bike grinning all the way.
Well, you could start talking about getting an airplane.
You aren't going to convince her, you aren't going to change her, give her more credit than that, bribing never works, plus, shes not sick, shes not broke. All you can do is help her live more comfortably with her fears, which will always be there. From you posts you understand the basis of her fears, its a rational fear. Its also evident you have sat down with her and talked about this, another good sign. A hard choice you need to make. Ride for you, not ride for her. Don't stop talking. Has she ever looked at the forum here? Would she want to chat here? Maybe a wive's forum? Just throwing this out, I don't know if this has ever been talked about. Maybe a different perspective will help her confront what she fears.I think a wife/SO forum would be a great idea. But they CANNOT have open access to all the areas. THAT would not be good
You aren't going to convince her, you aren't going to change her, give her more credit than that, bribing never works, plus, shes not sick, shes not broke. All you can do is help her live more comfortably with her fears, which will always be there. From you posts you understand the basis of her fears, its a rational fear. Its also evident you have sat down with her and talked about this, another good sign. A hard choice you need to make. Ride for you, not ride for her. Don't stop talking. Has she ever looked at the forum here? Would she want to chat here? Maybe a wive's forum? Just throwing this out, I don't know if this has ever been talked about. Maybe a different perspective will help her confront what she fears.
Hopefully I can convince her that if I take some advanced riding course or something that will her easy her fears. Just need to find a way to lower her anxiety level a bit when I ride.
Just to add my two pennies worth, I've been riding since I was 14 years old, now 43, and spent 20 years as a long distance despatch rider, in that time I was 'knocked off' some 27 times, hospitalised 3 times and died once.
I still ride and my wife loves my bikes almost as much as me, I rarely get the chance to ride alone, but she has no interest or desire to learn to ride herself.
I am a stepfather of 3 grandfather of four and great grandfather of 1 (you try telling me how that feels at 43!!!).
So with over 2 million miles under my belt you'd think the odds on 'not making it' are pretty high, I'm still here alive and kicking.
And all those years that my mother told me that bikes would be the death of me? Nope looks like it'll be the emphacaemia, hypotension, non-fuctioning heart valve or the Tumour on my lung that'll get me. To be honest a quick exit on a bike against a slow painful exit seems more appealing.
View it how you will, when your time is up, it's up. Risk or no risk.
You're a great grandfather at 43?
Did you father your first child when you were 7 or what?
It's complicated, but basically, inherited family that I love as my own.